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Defining emotional health and contemplative spirituality
Emotional Health naming, recognizing, and managing our own feelings identifying with and having active compassion for others initiating and maintaining close and meaningful relationships breaking free from self-destructive patterns being aware of how our past impacts our present developing the capacity to express our thoughts and feelings clearly, both verbally and nonverbally respecting and loving others without having to change them asking for what we need, want, or prefer clearly, directly, and respectfully accurately self-assessing our strengths, limits, and weaknesses and freely sharing them with others learning the capacity to resolve conflict maturely and negotiate solutions that consider the perspectives of others distinguishing and appropriately expressing our sexuality and sensuality grieving well Contemplative Spirituality awakening and surrendering to God’s love in any and every situation positioning ourselves to hear God and remember his presence in all we do communing with God, allowing him to fully indwell the depth of our being practicing silence, solitude, and a life of unceasing prayer resting attentively in the presence of God understanding our earthly life as a journey of transformation toward ever-increasing union with God finding the true essence of who we are in God loving others out of a life of love for God developing a balanced, harmonious rhythm of life that enables us to be aware of the sacred in all of life adapting historic practices of spirituality that are applicable today allowing our Christian lives to be shaped by the rhythms of the Christian calendar rather than the culture living in committed community that passionately loves Jesus above all else
Discipleship models often protect against growing up emotionally
The spirituality of most current discipleship models often only adds an additional protective layer against people growing up emotionally. Because people are having real, and helpful, spiritual experiences in certain areas of their lives–such as worship, prayer, Bible studies, and fellowship–they mistakenly believe they are doing fine, even if their relational life and interior world is not in order. This apparent “progress” then provides a spiritual reason for not doing the hard work of maturing.…
Emotional health and spiritual maturity are inseparable
Emotional health and spiritual maturity are inseparable. It is not possible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.
Top ten symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality
The top ten symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality: Using God to run from God Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness, and fear Dying to the wrong things Denying the past’s impact on the present Dividing our lives into “secular” and “sacred” compartments Doing for God instead of being with God Spiritualizing away conflict Covering over brokenness, weakness, and failure Living without limits Judging other people’s spiritual journey
Relational circuits checklist
Relational Circuits Checklist (Are our RCs on or off?) I just want to make a problem, person or feeling go away. I don’t want to listen to what others feel or say. My mind is “locked onto” something upsetting. I don’t want to be connected to [blank]. (Someone I usually like) I just want to get away, fight, or freeze. (verses Calm + Connect) I more aggressively interrogate, judge and fix others.…
Thought rhyming sequence
Thought rhyming takes participants through five steps from God’s perspective as God offers attunement to His children. In distress, God helps us restore our [relational circuits] and peace. Through the Immanuel journaling process, God brings healing to the broken interactions (misattunements) we experienced in life. Suppose we need to start our thought rhyming while we are feeling upset about something; we can use the following sequence. I can see you I can hear you I can understand how hard this is for you I am glad to be with you I can do something about what you are going through (steps and order borrowed from Exodus 3:7-8a)